After much research I just feel like I’m never going to understand the female body at all. I watched a programmed on youtube called “The Female ****** Explained” now this documentary talked about how women reach ****** and most if not all of the woman said they needed “DESIRE” to reach ******.
Moving on now to the subject of the rape fantasy that some women have had at some point in their life. Now nobody wants to be raped but can someone explain how a woman reaches ****** in a situation that will scar her for life?
Please do not respond and say it was just a physical response to stimulation, I have done my reading with journals and articles by well published psychologists and doctors. After watching that documentary it completely blew my mind and one article I read focused on research by 4 clinicians and 3 out of the 4 focused on physical stimulation but the 4th one who by the was a woman actually said that a woman would have to be “emotionally invested” in the experience to be able to reach ******.
Now the explanation of “Desire” and “Emotional Investment” completely correlate. How many times have women had sex and because they were not in the mood could not achieve ****** but yet during rape they did, you can’t just say that they guy knew how to stimulate her because some women who know in their hearts of hearts know that physical stimulation is just not enough, you would need emotions to add to the experience.
Now I can say that adrenaline rush can aid the situation because the body becomes sensitive however that is still physical and women know that their emotions can play a big part in having an ******.
If we look at how the rape fantasy works, fantasy is safe and controlled however real rape is out of the woman’s control but the act is still the same and its physical stimulation.
Society have placed so much emphasis on male domination to be erotic, sexy and the media often plays on the subconscious thoughts of woman about a dominant man way of conveying passion involves taking them a against their will and ravishing because the man “DESIRES” the woman to the point that her response does not matter to him he will have her at any cost.
Now rape can end with the woman being murdered or mutilated, her vaginal walls damaged. Now statistics have shown that a small amount of women have admitted to having an ******, the statistics are low because of the perceived shame and embarrassment of the event and the emotional trauma that comes with it so figures could be staggeringly high but that remains to be confirmed.
Now this is where things become murky when the scenario actually happen. Some part of a womans brain will react to male dominance some might find it appealing and others might find it repulsive so the questions is do the women that had reach ****** respond positively and the women that didn’t find it repulsive?
They say the brain won’t be able to differentiate between a fantasy rape and real rape because a woman will become lubricated but ****** requires “CONCENTRATION” from the woman. Even somegirls as young as teenagers and even youger often responds to the slightly more dominant male or the “JERK” as the good guys will call them because they would do whatever they wanted regardless how a girl would feel or think.
So if we now go the issue of real rape lets look at the stage where the outcome results in an ******
the man wants the woman, she does not want him,(in her fantasy she would want the man but put up a fight before submitting)
he stimulates her (same rule applies in her fantasy)
time elapses and the unthinkable happens she has an ****** and its a horrible experience (in the fantasy its the best feeling in the world)
If we let science talk, ****** being a state of physical and “MENTAL” satisfaction. To have an ****** the body has to feel good and the mind connects to that good feeling coupled with the duration and type of stimulation will result in ******.
I believe out of shame and fear and embarrassment women will refuse to admit at some point in her mind and body she gave into the sensations of the stimulation.
I believe rapists have understood this particular concept hence why the use the phrase ” you are enjoying this” and other words to further inflict damage, because at the end of the day a woman would not want to feel this kind of sensation with some she didn’t know or knew but never consented to.
Sex and rape becomes blurred over one issue and that is consent. If we look at the components of the rape fantasy and real rape there is still one thing involved and that is consent.
Remove consent from the equation, and just like it is said the brain can differentiate between real and fantasy and will trigger a physical response in the woman for her to become lubricated, even though this can also be a form of defence.
A woman will have some form rape fantasy numerous times in her life time and this will possibly increase the chance an ****** in the event of rape because of the components involved.
The fantasy normally involves someone the woman knows or a complete stranger or multiple men, she fights and even in her mind she may or may not give consent but its a fantasy so its not real but the effect works the same way on her body because the man desires her regardless of how she feels and will do what her must to have her and ravish and this will bring mental and physical pleasure. The same philosophy works with rape except this is not in the mind now this is real life. (Real rape often occurs with a stranger, someone the woman knows or even multiples men she knows or strangers)
(Some women get off on aggressive sex, pain, mutilation,) People have preferences some are just not willing to share them in fear of what people might think and avoid being judged
Women are particularly angered when men find it difficult to sincerely empathize with their plight but how many times have some women spoken about possibly having sex with a stranger, a man being dominant, ravishing her, desiring her and when the moment finally comes you want us to fully believe that “some” part you may have not enjoyed if not a whole lot just a little bit. I believe secrecy, shame and judgmental people that only focus on the sexual aspect of the rape alone will stop women and even men from possibly coming out and speaking “truthfully” about their ordeal.
Please feel free to comment on this article and let me know what you think.